Personal crises (endless in scope) are part of the embroidery that make up the quilt called life. While you are caught up within the jaws of crisis your attention diminishes and you perceive life through dark-coloured lens that speak of only hopelessness and despair.
A personal crisis usually entails circumstances that may be outside the scope of your usual lifestyle or normal existence.
The crisis – whatever it maybe – usually hijacks your ability to appreciate the greater whole, sucking you into a paralysis of over-analysing your predicament.
It entwines you into an endless spiral that makes you over-estimate the scope of the crisis. It literally leads your into a dark hole filled with scorpions of thought that sting you without any show of mercy.
But in that moment of crisis-induced blindeness, opportunity awaits like the proverbial light at the end of a dark tunnel.
First, you have to thoroughly accept that you are in a crisis, because denial only helps the setback to dig its claws into your being, denying you the opportunity to renew and revive.
Acceptance may seem like a sign of defeat at first sight but in reality surrender – even during wartime – carries with it a sigh of relief and the chance to begin again.
During that stage, it’s necessary to appreciate the fact that there’s nothing unique about your situation in the greater scheme of things.
Almost all personal setbacks have been endured by someone, somewhere, in the history of human existence.
If, for some reason, you blame yourself for the crisis, it is necessary to forgive yourself. Self forgiveness opens new channels that will help you to deal with the situation in a more mature manner.
If you stay bitter with yourself, you only help to make the pain grow, debilitating your chances to spot the opportunity to recover.
Indeed, a personal crisis can offer you an opportunity to assess your values, allowing you to have a second chance in life. In order to capture the opportunity that resides within a personal crisis, you have to be proactive rather than reactive.
Being reactive will exagerrate the situation in your imagination, and weaken your ability to rise up again.
The fact that you are alive, in itself, must be the greatest signal that there is still hope, and by being proactive, you will be able to find that special light and spark again. In effect, a personal crisis can help to give you a clear perspective about who you are.
For example, it can reveal your tenacity to survive against the odds. Thinking of a crisis in this manner can make you grow spiritually and mentally, and in the process, make you strong enough to be able to confront future setbacks. You also have to understand the power of time.
While you are in the midst of a crisis, time may seem stalled. But, thats a mere gimmick . It’s an illusion that the crisis creates in your being. The fact is time will move on.
And as the world has known since time immemorial, the passage of time is perhaps the greatest healer of any wound, physical and otherwise.
So accept that time will change, and in its stride, you will be able to find the beauty of life, once again. In addition, while in the grips of a crisis, you have to look deep down to one of the most fundamental of human qualities – choice.
No matter what will have happened, the choice remains in your hands to either crumble or recover in the face of the crisis.
Being humble can also be a power tool in your hands. Humility will help you to listen to the advice of people around you, if there are any.
It’s important to stress that humility in no way means submission to the crisis. Rather, being humble in a crisis will help you to commit to the most menial of tasks that can prove the key cornerstones of your recovery.
It allows you to learn new ways that will make you whole again. Humility is also a way towards inner peace, a way of quietening the demons that will be replete in the personal crisis.
Talking of demons, when you are blinded by a personal crisis, it can help to look outside yourself to a Higher Power.
The world is full of examples of people that looked to a Higher Power during times of crisis and came out better than before. Looking to a power outside yourself will not cost you anything but it can help you to better understand yourself, opening new insights into becoming a better you.
Whether you believe it or not, personal crisis can transform you into a better and stronger person that will have a greater appreciation of life, including people undergoing excruciating experiences in their own lives.
As psychiatrist Elizabeth Kubler-Ross succinctly puts it:
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These people have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep, loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”